My friend once told me that growth is mandatory but maturity is a choice.I think this whole adulting is maturity so eight months after leaving college and a month after turning 22,I’m here alone and wondering what this new title(young adult) I’ve acquired means.My dad was telling me that am now an adult,my mum still calls her little girl and prays to God that I stay with her six more months before I move out.My grandma on the other hand is asking when I’ll take a gentleman to her and my friends cheer me one with the phrase welcome to the world! Kwani where have I been living?
I have many questions like Am I too old or young for this?Is this decision right?God am I perfect?Can I do this? Am at a point where am so grateful to God for the lessons I am picking the major ones being these
1.Reality
“Be yourself everyone else is taken.” ~Laimani Bidali.
You can’t afford to be anything else let alone pretend.I mean for who?You can’t please everyone and this life can’t be rehearsed. The answers you need are found in YOU.
2.Failure
“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” ~Winston Churchill.
I can’t have everything succeed all the time and without failing I won’t learn nothing.Failure is part of everyday life so it isn’t how hard you fall but how you rise.
3.Contentment
Godliness with contentment is a great gain.(See 1 Tim6:6)
The key to happiness which we all crave is being content with what we have now,where we are and the progress we can see.Contentment is the mother of thanksgiving. I am constantly reminding myself to give thanks even for the little things I have.
4.One day at a time
A day has only 24 hours no actually mine has 17 because I court my sleep atleast 7hours daily..Do only what you have to do as far the peace of mind can allow you beyond that Stop!
5.Courage
“Be of good courage”
This process teaches me to have courage to evolve but not to conform.Courage to face my many fears and to be true to myself.
There’s no daunting task than having a me,myself and I conversation and remaining objective. Courage to speak up and stand out and the courage to admit that am perfectly imperfect.
6.Independence
I spot a good dress and I can’t tell my mum to buy it for me.I have to leave the house,find an apartment and furnish it to my taste without their money.Make my hair and nails all on my bill and no sponsor.
There are decisions to make and consult while treading carefully. Get into a relationship and conduct it like and adult
7.Accountability
I am accountable to God,my parents and my close circle of friends.That means that funny habit of mine of not picking calls has to die a natural death.I hate giving answers and explanations but adulting isn’t giving me a chance .
For every step I have to answer to someone and there are no shortcuts.
8.Discipline
Some mornings I want to sleep but I have to work and to worsen matters I don’t know what to wear so I look like this cat over here
I also have to train my brain and hands to work at super speed,eat healthy and exercise (Please God help me)
Adulting is a process that will continue so long as am alive and while it lasts I’ll enjoy every moment so Hello Adulting!
Blessings to you,
Wambui Muriuki.